Autism is a complex medical syndrome. We need to be careful in how it is stigmatised. The National Autistic society defines it as difficulty with social communication, interaction and imagination. On the spectrum is Aspergers syndrome where individuals find it hard to read body language, signals, or tone of voice.
Some leaders who do not have autism appear to display similar traits and may have children who are diagnosed with autism. You may find they are less able to read other’s emotional cues and constantly unwittingly cause “collateral damage” for those who work around them. It may be that they are high in IQ, yet unaware how to develop their emotional intelligence (EQ).
Never judge others too harshly; you do not know their backgrounds, life experiences or medical conditions. Try walking a mile in their shoes.
What you can do is enhance your own Emotional Intelligence; find a coach to help you measure and develop it so you can be more successful with less effort.